Dad-Friendly Homebirth FAQ Sheet: Everything You Might Be Wondering (But Haven’t Asked Yet)

"Is homebirth actually safe?”

Yes—for healthy, low-risk pregnancies, homebirth with a licensed midwife is a safe, evidence-based option. Studies show that planned homebirths with skilled providers have comparable (and sometimes better) outcomes than hospital births, with fewer unnecessary interventions like C-sections and inductions.

“What if something goes wrong?”

Midwives are trained to spot complications early and transfer to the hospital if needed.

They bring emergency supplies (oxygen, meds to stop bleeding, IV fluids, etc.) and have clear transfer plans in place. Think of it like this: your midwife is a specialist in normal birth, but also trained to act fast if anything isn’t normal.

“What does a midwife actually do?”

She handles everything from prenatal care and labs to monitoring labor, catching the baby (if desired), and helping with postpartum recovery. She comes to your home with medical gear, expertise, and calm confidence. She’s not a doula or a coach—she’s your provider.

“What am I supposed to do during the birth?”

Great question. You don’t have to be a superhero—you just have to be present.

Here are a few ways dads show up strong:

• Help set the tone—keep the space calm and encouraging

• Offer physical support: massage, counter pressure, water, snacks

• Stay connected—eye contact, affirmations, breathing together

• Be the gatekeeper: protect her peace (and privacy)

You don’t need to know everything. That’s what the midwife is for.

“What do we need to set up at home?”

Not much, honestly. The midwife will bring the medical gear.

You might be asked to gather:

• Clean towels, washcloths, and sheets

• A birth kit (usually ordered online)

• Snacks, drinks, maybe a birth pool if you’re planning a water birth

• Trash bags, a heating pad, and basic cleaning items

Your job? Help set up the space and make sure it feels safe and supported. The midwifery team handles the cleanup.

“What if I’m still not totally comfortable with the idea?”

That’s okay. You don’t have to be 100% sure right now. Ask questions. Talk to the midwife. Watch a birth video. You are allowed to have concerns—and so many dads who were unsure at first say homebirth ended up being one of the most powerful experiences of their lives.

“What happens after the baby is born?”

• Baby stays with mom—no separation, no unnecessary procedures, you stay right by their side.

• You get to cut the cord (if you want).

• The midwife stays 2–4 hours to monitor both of them.

• She does the newborn exam right there, in your room with you present.

• She comes back in the first few days for follow-up care.

You get to hold your baby, eat real food, and sleep in your own bed. No hospital lights. No interruptions. Just your family, with your midwife on-call should you need her postpartum.

As You Consider Being a Homebirth Dad

Homebirth isn’t about being “brave” or “alternative.” It’s about trusting your team, respecting your partner, and choosing the birth setting that feels right for both of you. You’re not doing this alone—and you’re not expected to be the expert.

You’re just showing up with love and presence—and that’s more than enough!

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